Temptation is not sin. Temptation is a call to action by an enemy who hopes to lure you into sin. Temptation is the first domino in a chain reaction that, if set in motion, may well lead to sin. But that first domino need not fall.
The second step in dealing with temptation is to see it for what it is: a call to sin. Satan can coax, but he cannot command—and God is always ready to help you resist.
For any temptation to succeed, it must find a willing “host” in its target. You cannot be made to comply. This call to sin has been likened to a single note sung into an open piano. That note (if sung in tune) will cause the piano string of the same tone to vibrate. Like recognizes like and responds.
When you are tempted to sin, try to identify in yourself the need or vulnerability that is being called out: Are you tired? Lonely? Frustrated? Jealous? Angry? Ask yourself, “What am I hiding from? Reacting to? Longing for? Demanding?” Then think, Will responding to this temptation meet that vulnerability in a way that helps me, encourages others, and honors God?
Instead of assuming that sin is the inevitable result of any temptation, take time to recognize the temptation as an enemy’s work. Examine your heart for any vulnerability that might respond to his call. Imagine temptation as the extended hand of an enemy who would pull you into sin—and then refuse to take it.